Self Realization – Do You Know Who You Are?


SELF-REALIZATION is the life’s goal of the Free Man.

That is, learning who you are – YOU, not what you’ve been instructed or are expected to be, not your parent’s or guardian’s or teacher’s (or society’s) lives and biases and beliefs and opinions, not THEM – YOU – learning who you are and living free as that person, whether that remains constant or you change every week – whoever YOU are. What you want. What makes you love life. All else is second priority.

self realization - do you know who you are?

That is self-realization. That is ‘letting go.’ That is being free. And that is your goal. Be it now, ten minutes from now, or a year from now. Continually. Always your first goal and priority.

Self-realization is about standing apart from the masses. One of my young weaknesses was in trying to be normal – in how I looked, talked, wrote, LIVED.


I wasted so much time trying to fit in!

Normal is overrated. Normal is boring. Normal sucks.

We’re all unique. Be you. And be free.


By Eric Lokian

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10 thoughts on “Self Realization – Do You Know Who You Are?”

  1. Sammy Allen says:

    Hey there Eric,

    I really like your article and appreciate that you are taking up such an important topic…being yourself and how that relates to ones freedom. It’s great that you are enlightening others and sharing such a viewpoint. I believe that we as individuals are the cause point of our own lives and have the capability of creating one’s future, the way we want it to be. Keep me posted.

    L, Sammy

  2. Manu says:

    Thank you, Christine. It was a great post on self-realization. In these busy lives, we are working day to night and forgot what we are. With this article, I got some inspiration to take care of myself and give myself more time than others.



    1. Christine says:

      Thank Eric, not me 😉 He’s the one sharing the wisdom. I’m just posting it here with his permission.



  3. Sylvia says:

    That is so right, Eric!
    I had so much trouble in my younger years, too, and I waste so much life to fit in. But guess what, I have never been enough for my family or society! It is about our lives and our emotions and needs. I believe that many people don’t know themselves very well. We all are on a journey, and it is hard to love and respect ourselves if we get rejected as a young person very much. We start to hate ourselves.
    But it is our life, and we are the creator of our world. It is a pity that many people are waking up when they have already reached middle age. Thank you very much! You have me think about myself! 🙂

  4. Andrew says:

    Learning who we are is not easy.
    As you say, we have been taught to be who we are ‘expected’ to be by family, friends, schools, societies, etc. all with the intention of being able to ‘fit in’ with all of the other sheep.

    Coming to know who we are is a process that strips away all that we think we are, all that we have been conditioned to be, and then seeing what remains.
    I believe that what we will find is someone who is in awe of life, all of it, exactly as it is. All that will remain is the loving, passionate soul that came for the experience of being alive in this physical reality, just for the fun of it!

    Thanks for sharing. I wish you all the best!

  5. Hannie says:

    I guess we all try to blend in as teenagers, Eric, don’t we? It’s the time when we are experimenting with our attitudes and maybe even rebel against parents or teachers. I wouldn’t call that lost or wasted time.

    It’s hard to be different. Although, if I can believe the US movies I sometimes see, maybe it’s even harder in the States than over here in Europe. Or in the Netherlands, where I come from. I was different in my youth but probably just ‘normal’ enough to be accepted anyway. So I was lucky.

    It’s marvelous you are working on your self-realization, given where you are. I cannot, in any way, have an idea how it’s like to be in your situation. I hope you can continue to do well. All the best!

  6. Kathy says:

    I enjoyed reading this article as I can relate to it. I probably spent much of my younger years trying to be “normal” and fitting in. Always worrying how others see me. Of course, it’s complete nonsense as there is no “normal”. Being yourself and finding out who you are is truly liberating. It’s only since living on my own for the first time in my life I feel I know who I am:)

  7. Matt Lin says:

    Hi Eric,

    Trying to be normal like others in the class, in the office, or the family makes us far away from our true selves. I can relate to this because I also have the same issue about finding who I really am. I learn many ways to concentrate on myself, such as meditation, deep breaths, and living solitude for a while. All of those help me think clearly and stick to something that I want to accomplish in my life. So, thanks for this article, making me feel less alone. 🙂


  8. We like this self-realization it makes you think about who you really are and how you we can let go and be free with each other. This is a wonderful article of just realizing how to be yourself can be hard sometimes but just let loose and be free, be yourself.


  9. Kwidzin says:

    I love the first picture here of the figure looking out over the mountain tops. Brilliant!

    Yea, I couldnt agree more. We can only be who we are. Unfortunately though, so many people in the world all trying to be someone or somethng that they are not. It’s small wonder the world is such a stressed out place eh

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